The Whys and Why Nots of Solo Living
Have you ever thought of settling? But not with a partner or a friend, just by yourself. If yes, then this one is for you!
Thinking about going for independent living is not an easy task. You have to examine a number of things, and also consider your feelings. Continue reading for you to have an idea or two on why you should push thru with your plan or not, or maybe not yet:
Why – go for it!
It will teach you how to be independent
Obviously, living on your own would forcibly teach you how to be independent. There are no more mom or dad, ate or kuya – it’s just you all alone. You may have a pet with you, but it will also be under your roof. Basically, you are solely responsible for everything now. You cannot wait for other people to do things for you or even to help you because you are currently living solo.
Get to know yourself even more
With the amount of time you get to spend all by yourself, it is almost impossible for you not to get to know yourself even more. You are now having all the “me time” you are hoping for. No more distractions and noises, it is just you. If you like to have this kind of environment, maximize it by reflecting with the hope of discovering more about yourself. Learn more about how you handle homesickness, stress, responsibilities, and whatnot.
Know how it is to take charge of (almost) everything
The reason why it is just almost obviously because there are lots of unpredictable things that would go along your way. If you thought you are now the manager of everything, you might want to think about that again. The solo living will help you realize many things about how you take care of yourself, place, environment, work, social life, and also how you handle sudden changes.
Gear yourself up for the future
We have to accept the fact that there will come the time when we will be living away from our parents, far away from our loved ones and even from our friends. Not all people enjoy the convenience or have that luck to spend the rest of their lives together with other people. If you have the gut feeling that you belong to the population who will most probably live a solo life, then maybe you want to start practicing now.
Also, the practice of living independently is not just for your immediate future. You might be single now, but in the future, if you plan to have a family including kids, you should have trained yourself to let go of the people around you. Yes, it is about your kids. Maybe this is way too early to talk about, then again at least you get the idea of it.
Test your limit
If you are the type of person who is up for challenges, solo living might be one of your mountains to climb. It is a different thing when you are socializing with your friends, colleagues or relatives, and compared to handling your life alone. You may have the idea that you get along well with other people so living by yourself is just a piece of cake. However, you should also know that some people are better with other people rather than only by themselves alone. Are you ready to take the test and see how far you can go?
Wooh, yes! Finally, no more curfew (or depends on your place) and words from people surrounding you. You are the master of your captain now. You call the shots. You can invite your friends anytime you want and do the things you have always wanted to. No more restrictions! You now have the freedom you have been dreaming of.
Why not – abort the mission!
Staying alone in your Empire East condo might sound right after reading the points on why you should go for the independent living. But before you take the leap of faith, you should also consider other the following why not’s:
Solo living might not be practical
If money is not a problem for you, then living independently is not a burden for you. You can finance yourself thru your high paying job, or maybe it is enough to sustain your needs and some of your desires. Asking money from your parents or relatives is not necessarily bad. However, how would you even consider that solo or independent living if you still tend to rely on others?
Solo living takes a lot of thinking and planning. For now, maybe you are in the heat to say yes. But if you know that you are not yet capable of providing on your own, delaying your plan can be an option.
It costs a lot
The joy of living alone costs a lot. This doesn’t speak just about the money, but also other relevant matters. Who will take care of you if you’re sick? Your parents, siblings, helpers or even your friends may not be available to assist you. How can you vent out your stress if your confidants are far away from you? You may have invited them but they are not free, or maybe they can’t visit you. The emotional and psychological aspect of your well-being will be tested.
But really, freedom?
We often equate solo living with the luxury of independence. Who will predict what you may and cannot do in your Empire East condo? Of course, it is only you alone! Despite that though, we also have to take into account that restrictions and limits still confine us. Technically, you can’t overhaul your unit or your place without being granted permission. Ideally, there is no absolute freedom. One way or another, there will be factors that will affect your decision making – opportunities, finances, etc.
Having read all of these, can you say that you are still up for the game or nah? Deciding whether to go for solo living needs thorough thinking. You do not need to rush anything. Try to weigh things down by listing all the pros and cons you have in mind. Then you’ll see if it is a go, no or not yet.