FAKING THE ORGASM? WHY YOU SHOULDN’T DO THIS!
Faking the orgasm is useless, because it sets a precedent in the relationship and because instead of doing good to your partner, you are doing the opposite. Mostly, who pretend to reach the orgasm while having sex are women. Doing it is much easier for them than the men, since the man’s orgasm is usually accompanied by ejaculation and hiding that is more complicated. For this reason I am going to refer to women, especially in this post. By the way, have you read these 7 tips to make your woman reach orgasm and never forget it.
We’ll see. Who has not faked an orgasm? If possible. It is not so important either. We are not going to be great, but these words are not directed to that sporadic pretense that can occur in a particular circumstance, but to that other habitual pretense, which ends up becoming so everyday in the relationship. It’s not a good idea.
The Fear of Offending the Partner
Sometimes it is pretended not to offend the couple, because they do not think that they “make love wrong”, or because they feel ashamed to admit that they do not feel pleasure, or because they fear losing their partner. There are many reasons, but the same conclusion can be drawn from all of them: do not do it. The sexual relationship must be the vehicle to achieve enjoyment, relaxation, relaxation. Being in tension is contradictory with the ultimate goal of sexuality, which has the great value of providing well-being .
If you think that your partner is going to offend you, the sooner you raise the question better, because if you lengthen it the offense will grow without remedy. And, if said, the couple is not able to fit it because you also have a great clue that in that relationship there are problems beyond the orgasm.
Sexuality in couples requires a large dose of generosity, sincerity, openness towards the other. Thinking about your own pleasure is very important (of course), but it is also important to think about the person in front of you. Fit that your girl does not have orgasms is part of the necessary generosity in the relationship.
Generally we think that the man will react badly and he will feel hurt in his pride, but it does not have to be that way. In fact, in many cases, they tend to want to satisfy the couple and strive to achieve it. Surely it is what would happen if you confess it to your boy. In the case of relationships between two women, there is also often enough understanding.
Now, the fact of confessing it should not imply a tireless crusade to achieve that coveted orgasm because that is what can generate the tension that leads us to block the pleasurable sensations that we seek.
Therefore: NO fake orgasms. Talk with your partner, with simplicity and sincerity (YES!) And from that, RELAX in future sexual encounters. Try different things, guide the couple where we like, be guided and be open to experiment. Oh! and something very important is to have PATIENCE.
The mere fact of confessing that you do not have orgasms does not open the door automatically to multiorgasms, so we go by steps. With confidence and security, the end will come.
Men too Should Have Patience
For those men who are desperate and insist that their partner reaches orgasm, I have to say that they are on the wrong track. That will generate a lot of tension in the relationship and may lead the girl to pretend more, not to discourage or not have problems. The best thing is not to worry too much and do everything possible to not talk much about it. Flow normally and ensure maximum relaxation of the couple.
Most importantly, have some sincerity in the relationship. But with tact and affection. We banish anger and frustration on both sides and focus on relaxation and fun.